I’ve been reading the book “A Course in Miracles” for a little over a year now. It’s written to be a 365 day journey but you know, life happens, so I am reading, learning, and growing at my own pace. Sometimes while reading I come across a teaching or a quote that resonates deeply, that feeling of “this me, I need this” sets in and I spend a little more time applying the lesson to my daily life.
Two quotes that have stuck with me throughout the course are: "Nothing can hurt you unless you give it the power to do so." and "Teach no one he has hurt you, for if you do, you teach yourself that what is not of God has power over you. The two quotes about power struck a chord with me; often times in life we are put in situations that make us feel attacked and vulnerable and respond with self defense and fear.
I have been making a conscience effort to evaluate the underlying reason why I become upset in certain situations, using my feeling as an emotional compass. I consciously try to practice these two techniques when I find myself anxious, fearful, or worried:
First I stop and think before reacting and ask “What is my intention?” before responding, I take a moment to relax and not just react.
Then I take ownership of whatever I’m truly feeling and look at what is the cause of that emotion. If I am angry why? Is it because I have disappointed myself for not taking the time to be prepared? Am I judging another person or situation by projecting an insecurity of my own on to someone else?
I have learned a lot about myself by asking these questions on a daily basis. At first I would forget in the moment and then have to reflect on what I wish I said or did, but slowly it has become a habit to pause, and refocus my thoughts on the intent of what I am about to say, do, or even think. This systematic way of self reflection has led me to a path of seeking “Authentic power”…